How to Stop “The Drift”

“I used to be fierce,” she said.  ”I don’t know what happened.”

“I fell into a career I didn’t really want,” he said.  ”It’s too late to change now.”

Have you, like my two friends, ever woken up one morning wondering, “How did I get here?”

American philosopher and writer, Henry David Thoreau, said, “Our life is frittered away by detail.”  As task oriented people, it’s easy for us to move from one “thing” to the next until we wind up in a place we don’t recognize.  Or even like.

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It’s “The Drift.”  And it can happen to any of us.  And it usually happens slowly.

Like a boat tied too loosely to the dock, we can drift away from our moorings.  Slowly, slowly, the waves of life rock us, push us, nudge us . . . and eventually the knot pulls out and we drift gradually out to sea.  Eventually, we can drift so far out to sea that shore is no longer in sight. Continue reading

Busy-ness and Silence

My calendar used to be so full there was nary an unscheduled, white space in it.

This board meeting, that networking group, this event, that book club, this church group.  A home business, business team meetings, master-mind calls, webinars.  I’d start a weekly business group here and a bi-monthly women’s mentoring group there.  I’d swoop in and volunteer two hours of time here, four hours there, plus an extra quarterly leaders’ meeting over there.

I scheduled all of these commitments around my full-time job of homeschooling my son.

Plus, reading for pleasure, reading for personal development, reading for spiritual growth, exercising, caring for five dogs, being a wife, mom, friend, sister, cooking nutritious meals, keeping the house clean (or not so clean, or just clean enough not to completely repel a visitor) . . .

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New Year, Same Old You

I’ve failed at more New Year’s Resolutions than I’ve kept.  And I’m not ashamed to say it.

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In the past, I’ve resolved to:

  • eat less chocolate
  • eat less, period
  • exercise more
  • exercise at all
  • eliminate debt
  • keep my house cleaner
  • lose weight
  • spend more time with friends
  • spend more time with family
  • spend less
  • eliminate caffeine
  • cut down on caffeine
  • research caffeine to see its reported “ill-effects” are real
  • work on my marriage
  • have more patience with my son
  • read the Bible

I failed miserably at most of these resolutions.

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How to Create Energy on a Dreary Day

It’s Monday morning of a cloudy, drizzly November day, yet I feel the lightness of spring.  Yes, it’s early and I’m a bit tired.  Yes, I have a full week ahead.  And yes, like you, I crave the sun and a cloudless sky–

Yet, I feel great.

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As I look around, I see the last yellow and red leaves clinging to branches of trees and bushes.  A brilliant final goodbye as fall becomes winter.

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The Voice Inside Your Head

The other day I was talking to a friend about a project I’m working on.  This project is important to me–it’s something I’ve wanted to do for a long time.  We talked about my progress and then I reluctantly shared the fear that my work wasn’t good enough.  Then I waited for her reaction.  It was swift and certain.

“Your work isn’t that good,” she said.  “This project is beyond you–what were you thinking by taking it on?  You should stop now.  Just admit you can’t do it.”

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This conversation happened with a friend I’ve known my entire life.   She’s my very best friend.

Or is she?

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